Jo Rayner Coaching - April 2016 Newsletter

Fear & Vulnerability.
Unlock your inner warrior

The pain and fear that vulnerability brings prevents us all living to our full potential.
How many things has fear prevented you from achieving?
  • Not applying for that job.
  • Not speaking out when you feel passionately about something or someone.
  • Not leaving a relationship that is causing pain and happiness.
  • Not sharing your emotions with others.
  • Not asking your boss for that raise.
  • Not telling a friend that their behaviour is unacceptable and is causing unhappiness.
When did we lose the ability to look fear in the face and do it anyway?
The memory of our childhood bravery is in the distant past when our friends dared us to do things and we would throw caution to the wind and jump into the exciting world of the fear.
I was reminded of the quote by Brene Brown " Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they are never weakness"
So how can we embrace our vulnerabilities and start to create a new future for ourselves?
Observe your inner voice.
What is the fear allowing you to believe about yourself?
Challenge the Fear.
Start writing in a journal and explore …………
What things would you like to achieve?
What emotions are preventing you achieving these?
Why do you feel this way?
If you were to achieve these what impact would that have on your life and how would it feel
For me being vulnerable means trusting and believing in something even when we can't be sure of the outcome.
"To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable; to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength" - Criss Jami
This got me thinking about challenging our demons and what if we started thinking in a different way. Here are some of my thoughts to help challenge these fears
  • To be courageous is to take risks
  • What if your inner voice doesn't know best and you can achieve?
  • What is the worse thing that could happen?
  • What if failure is just a lesson we need to learn and not a terrible ending after all?
  • What if you were good enough after all?
Fear is like staring at a closed door, facing these fears head on is to open this door creating space & allowing potential for growth. The endless possibilities that could be created within our lives if we could only think about vulnerability in a different way
For me courage is to do something without any guarantees, to do it anyway, not to focus on the end result but embrace the journey, learn the lessons along the way and have no preconceived expectations of the outcome
Open the door to your fear and allow the endless possibilities to flood in

To find out more about how I can help give me a call or take a look at my website
My approach to coaching is to provide all of the above in a safe nonjudgmental, confidential environment.


S– Attleborough

I called on Jo at a particularly difficult time in my life. I believed that I could not get over the death of my husband some 4/5 years earlier. I was angry, resentful and so very, very sad at the situation I had been left in. Through discussion I learned that actually, the problem was deeper than this, and went back to my childhood. I learned so much about myself - who I am, and what shaped me to be the person I am today. Once I was able to appreciate myself for who I was, I was able (with Jo's guidance) to make positive changes to my life. As well as learning about myself, Jo helped me to understand the personality types of others - how to identify them, how to understand what makes them 'tick' and how to communicate effectively with them. This has particularly helped me when 'negotiating' with my children - a very valuable skill when I am outnumbered!

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Quote of the Month
Loving ourselves through the process of owning our story is the bravest thing WE WILL EVER DO
-Brene Brown

This Month I have chosen "Seat of the Soulby Gary Zukav

This book encourages us to take charge of our own life. It challenges us to change the way we see the world, how we interact with others, and understand our actions and motivations
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Jo has been involved in coaching for over 20 years & her passion in life has been to help individuals in fulfilling their potential. Jo has a diploma in life coaching which was undertaken with the UK College of personal development and is a member of the Association for Coaching. She also writes articles for the Divorced Parents Magazine & is one of the Coaching Experts





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