One very dark rainy night one of my clients skipped through the doors of my consulting room. "What a lovely evening" she said. "Have you had a good day Jo?" I was a little taken aback as however pleased I was to see this radiant glow & feel this intoxicating positive energy this was not what I was expecting from this individual.
My response was "How lovely to see you smile"
"Its hygge!!!!" she said
Hygge what on earth was this!!!
The following day yet another client pointed out the power of "hygge"
I was very confused. What is this "hygge" I was unsure of its meaning & certain that I was never going to pronounce it correctly.
So what is this powerful little word that has captivated so many people.
As I googled & found articles about this, my first response was it seemed to be about a way of life that our Danish friends embrace in their interior design. The soft pale colours, the unlimited amount of tea lights, & cosy throws over furniture. Creating a warm safe cosy environment. However the more I delved into this intriguing world of hygge I realised it is so much more.
The three areas that have resonated with me are about how we can find peace & contentment in the chaos of life & more importantly how to quieten our minds of the constant negative thoughts that cause us pain.
The Sensory Experience ”Meik Wiking author of "The Little Book of Hygge" says we need to engage all our senses. We have all experienced this at times. Either on annual holiday when there is nothing to be done but to soak up the sun & for that split second a wave of happiness flows through our body while we feel the heat of the sun on our skin. For me it’s running in the rain when I can feel the cold crisp air on my face & the raindrops hitting my cheeks, how alive I feel. These incredible moments only happen occasionally & when they do, it’s our emotions & senses that enforce them. How can we introduce these sensory experiences into our daily lives & how much joy could this bring? Perhaps it can be as small as ensuring we always remove the clutter from our favourite chair so when we walk into the room we can't resist sitting down & savouring the peace, even for just a moment while we enjoy the warm frothy hot chocolate we have just made.
In the moment
There is an element of mindfulness in hygge & we are all striving to find this within our lives. When life is busy I can easily lose sight of the moment & get lost in my thoughts & task of the day. Disturbing the calm & peace. The idea that we can engage in the present moment can be challenging however Louisa Thomas Brits the author of "The Danish Art of Living Well” described hygge as the "uncomplicated noticing". We enter wholeheartedly into the moment & experience all that it has to offer. It’s about seeking out simple everyday pleasures.
I have indulged in lighting my candle each night & absorbed the atmosphere it creates. Thomas Brits says that "candles are a hygge cliché but it is a signal to slow down, that you want that moment of intimacy"
After all this talk of hygge I have come to realise that for me hygge is about finding comfort in this hostile world. It can help us find a sense of belonging in our environment. Its how we connect with other people, our environment & ourselves that creates our own sense of peace.
So however you want to pronounce this little hygge word ensure you embrace your HYGGE & have a wonderful Happy Peaceful HYGGE Christmas
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Dalai Lama XIV — 'True change is within; leave the outside as it is"
BOOK OF THE MONTH
I have chosen "The Little Book of Hygge" byMeik Wiking - Denmark is often said to be the happiest country in the world. That's down to one thing: hygge.
'Hygge has been translated as everything from the art of creating intimacy to cosiness of the soul to taking pleasure from the presence of soothing things.
You know hygge when you feel it. It is when you are cuddled up on a sofa with a loved one, or sharing comfort food with your closest friends. It is those crisp blue mornings when the light through your window is just right.
ABOUT ME Jo has been involved in coaching for over 20 years & her passion in life has been to help individuals in fulfilling their potential. Jo has a diploma in life coaching which was undertaken with the UK College of personal development and is a member of the Association for Coaching. She also writes articles for the Divorced Parents Magazine & is one of the Coaching Experts